This week, Katie and Angie take a stab at answering the difficult question about whether romantic relationships eradicate loneliness. Because it’s Re:Mind, they take a look at many possible angles within the question.
They explore what loneliness even is, sharing personal experiences on the matter. As well, they look at loneliness within a relationship and why this might occur. The flipside is not forgotten either as they also consider what it means and feels to be lonely when single with the added layer of personality (introversion/extroversion). Importantly, they explore the taboo of admitting loneliness and offer personal insight on how to deal with it.
Disclaimer: The hosts are not licensed psychologists. This episode and show simply explore their viewpoints backed up by their own experiences and research where applicable. Resources for help are listed below.
Topics Covered in Episode:
[02:25] Defining the types of loneliness
[04:24] Feeling lonely in a relationship and why
[05:45] Cultural expectations of a romantic relationship
[07:12] The fear of being alone and lonely after a relationship ends
[09:41] Introversion and loneliness when single
[11:30] Extroversion and loneliness when single
[12:11] The phasic nature of loneliness
[15:00 Loneliness in singles and modern dating
[16:20] The taboo of admitting you’re lonely – societal rejection of loneliness
[17:40] Negative self-talk and loneliness
[18:21] Research - The heritability of loneliness
[19:00] How do we tackle loneliness?
[20:45] Changing your mindset about loneliness
[22:25] Final thoughts & Conclusion
Resources mentioned in this episode:
[15:50] Loneliness in singles and modern dating
Relate., 2017 – Being single in Britain today: the report (https://www.relate.org.uk/policy-campaigns/publications/being-single-britain-today)
[18:21] The heritability of loneliness
Gao et al., 2016 – Genome wide association study of loneliness demonstrates a role of common variation. Nature: Neuropsychopharmacology, 42, 811-821. doi:10.1038/npp.2016.197
Resources for Help (UK only):
Mind Info Line – 03001233393 (Mon-Fri: 09:00-18:00)
Types of mental health problems; where to get help; medication and alternative treatment advice.
Samaritans – 116123 (24/7)
Helpline providing round-the-clock emotional support.
Crisis Text Line – Text ‘SHOUT’ to 85258
Support given for a range of urgent issues such as suicidal thoughts; self-harm; bullying; relationship difficulties.
CALM – 0800585858 (17:00-00:00: 365 days/year)
National helpline for men to discuss any emotional troubles they are facing.
RELATE - 03001001234 (or find your nearest Relate – www.relate.org.uk)
Support given for all types of relationship difficulties running centres across the UK, phone, email and live chat counselling.
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